When humility becomes doubt
Which would you rather be?
- Unskilled but confident in your ability.
- Skilled but lacking the confidence to recognize it.
Have you ever considered that your humility might be holding you back?
Some people overestimate their abilities. On a scale of 1 to 10, they might believe they’re an 8 when they’re really a 4. The more they convince themselves of their inflated skill, the more distorted their self-perception becomes – drifting further from how others actually see them.
On the flip side, others downplay their strengths. They might think they’re a 3 when they’re truly a 7. Excessive humility can cloud your judgment, causing you to underestimate your own capabilities.
Yes, humility is a virtue – but too much of it turns into self-doubt. And self-doubt tells you “you’re not good enough,” even when you are.
Don’t refuse praise. If someone says you’re great at writing or data analysis, don’t deflect with, “Oh, I’m not that good.” Accept the compliment. Own it.
Remember what Oscar Wilde said:
He who refuses praise the first time it is given only does so because he wants to hear it the second time.
You know you appreciate recognition – we all do. So stop pretending you don’t. Humility is good, but only in small doses. Too much of it leads to self-doubt, and no progress happens when you’re doubting yourself.
Progress comes when you believe in your ability and step forward with confidence.